People are always in the pursuit of happiness throughout their lives, but also hope to get some achievements at a certain level to affirm their own value, so whether it is personality or external performance, we will always actively make ourselves better. These self-improvement measures usually focus on people who want to change, but this will allow us to focus on our own shortcomings.
But what really matters is how you see others.
From an early age, our parents taught us not to trust strangers on the road. On the way to growth, we also gradually understand that every human act has a different motivation, so we can not judge a person from the surface alone, and because of this, we will be on the strangerand things with a certain degree of caution. Psychologist Roy Baumeister also said, "Bad is stronger than good." Bad experiencehas have a far greater impact on human psychology than good experiences, and it is one of the human beings' innate survival instincts that put shimasi in a position to protect themselves from harm.
This may sound contradictory, but research by Jason Colquitt, a researcher at the University of Georgia, suggests that people who perform in the workplace and exhibit a greater sense of responsibility for work are generally people who are willing to trust others. We all know that relationships in the workplace directly affect whether we can be happy and successful in our careers. So instead of asking yourself what can be improved, it's better to start appreciating the strengths and weaknesses of others.
Studies have shown that humans tend to think they are better than half, meaning that we feel less trustworthy by others. Chip Heath, a behavioral scientist at Stanford University, also found that we tend to think that the motivation for our actions is "endogenous", for example, because I work hard because I love the job, while others are motivated by "exosomes" for example, for example, because the company pays them.
But new research suggests that if you can try to appreciate the good side of others, it will be a big boost to your life and job.
After all, conflict and friction in everyday life are inevitable. Chris Argyris, a professor at Harvard Business School, points out that many of the causes of conflict come from the "inference ladder", which is simply an easy "conclusion", and that it is clear that he receives neutral information but believes in his mind that he has a bad motivation to be good and therefore tends to distrust others or show negative emotions.
In addition, we all want to be able to convince others in quarrels, and when we believe that some people's ideas can be changed, we will do more to refine our proposals; This is a confirmation bias, and once we form certain views, we consciously seek evidence that supports or corroborates our own point of view in support of our original ideas. When we can't convince them, we'll come back and prove our point.
In short, trust others is to believe in themselves. Instead of deepening the bad impression of others and amplifying their own shortcomings, it is better to look at each other's words or behavior, so as not to limit their influence and ability, so that the door to happiness and success open the door to you!
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